I inferred in the recent Albuquerque Tribune article, that I was pretty emotionally
detached about Patricia’s future. I simply see no way out, the drama will continue, and
the children will continue to be hurt, if we stop paying attention to Patricia, she will
escalate. Writing this blog, proved me wrong/

     As anticipated, Patricia wrote Glen a letter after he showed up at her latest
hearing, the letter is dated on his birthday but part of the content and the postmark
indicates it was likely written after the court hearing.

     It is Glen’s letter and I will not share the entire content. My mother believes it
shows improvement, but I am doubtful.    Twice she asks Glen for forgiveness, not for her sake but for but for his sake – “So, Glen Bryan Avery, my Beloved Sonshine, please consider forgiving me for your
sake, for the sake of your well being”.

     If he forgives her, she promises to rush back into his life and be a loving, kind
mother but she acknowledges she needs to do a better job. She loves all of us and just
wants another chance.

     Patricia, I gave you every opportunity I could, for twenty years. I worked to bring
you and Glen back together when both of you gave up on each other – As did Judge
Jewell, John Romero, Dr. Zieman, Dr. Flammer, APN, and even the quack you ambushed
Glen with.

     And you responded by going out into that cold night and seeking my death and
possibly the death of these same children you ask forgiveness from.

     I never abused you Patricia. It is that simple. I never beat you, I never verbally
abused you, I always treated you as a partner, I supported you with your illness until your
abuse extended to the children, even then I sent you out to get help and you decided it
was easier to divorce me and bring Kyle into the house.

     You do not need my forgiveness Patricia or the children’s forgiveness to start a
new life. You only need to act differently then you have.

     You do not even realize the burden you place on our son, whose has grown into
such a fine man with a strength your abuse instilled in him and a sweetness your abuse
could not take from him. The hatred you refer to in the letter between your mother and
yourself has placed him in a role of pater familias, a role I can only share with him as the
guardian of his brother and sister.

     Finally, how dare you tell our son that he is “genetically predisposed” to suffer
from the same mental illness that inflicts you, how dare you inflict that thought on him?
     
     Fortunately, to your ‘unfortunately’, Glen Bryan Avery is an Avery and my son as
you have accused him of time after time over the last several years. Our son, an Avery,
will rise above his heritage to be a better human then either of his parents.

     I won’t turn my back on you Patricia, but do not confuse this with opening my
arms.