<?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8"?><rss xmlns:itunes="http://www.itunes.com/dtds/podcast-1.0.dtd" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" version="2.0"><channel><ttl>60</ttl><title>Consequences</title><link>http://blog.fatheriam.com</link><language>en</language><copyright /><itunes:subtitle></itunes:subtitle><itunes:author>Stephen Avery</itunes:author><itunes:summary /><description /><itunes:owner><itunes:name>Stephen Avery</itunes:name><itunes:email>savery@averycpa.com</itunes:email></itunes:owner><itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit><itunes:category text="Arts" /><item><title>Patricia's Recent Correspondence with Our Son</title><link>http://blog.fatheriam.com/2008/09/24/patricias-recent-correspondence-with-our-son.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Stephen Avery</dc:creator><description>&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;We turned the page on a new chapter in our story earlier this month with the Court declaring Patricia mentally incompetent. &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;So many chapters-- Murder-for hire, child abuse, domestic violence, suicide attempts, animal abuse, welfare fraud, fundraising on the internet, countless false legal charges against both myself and the children.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;It is six and a half years since Patricia filed and there is simply no end in sight.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;She wrote two letters to Glen this month, this makes a total of four letters since her arrest in February of 2004 and Glen and I spent a couple of hours with the sheriff’s department about the first letter. &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;Naturally, Patricia’s purpose in writing the letters had nothing to do with her son. It appears Patricia and her ‘father’ Joe Sanders experienced some type of falling out. &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Let’s address the first letter factually, although it is now part of a police report I will not post the letter itself without Glen’s permission as it is addressed to him.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;The letter begins with a single sentence telling Glen how much she loves him, his siblings, and I, more then we can imagine. &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;She is very specific is her description of Sanders, providing his address, and telling Glen where Sanders hides illegal weapons in his house and car.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;At the bottom of the second page, she takes a break and asks Glen to send her her birth certificate (which we do not have). She then resumes her warnings about Sanders and how to get him arrested. She ends by providing specific warnings about what Sanders is capable of doing to our daughter. &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Patricia also denies ever claiming that Sanders is her biological father. I guess she forgot the recorded divorce trial with her second husband and the civil domestic violence hearing against her and Sanders. Both recordings are on the &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;A href="http://www.fatheriam.com/Court%202005.htm"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;website&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/A&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Patricia has a history of writing such documents, as I reminded Glen when we discussed the letter. There was the letter Patricia wrote the JPO when Glen was fourteen accusing him of cruelty to animals. There was the letters written to the State Bar complaining about the Guardian Ad Litem, There were the numerous police reports made by Patricia against both Glen and I. There were the allegations made in the previous domestic violence filings. If I wasted more time thinking about it, I bet I could bring up at least a dozen more examples.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Given her history, the intent of the letter was obvious. I was to rush down to the police station and get them to go out and arrest Joe Sanders. That crazy bitch, my ex wife, involved our child in her petty attempt at revenge and trouble making. Further, she involved our child by claiming that his life and his family’s lives were threatened. &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;</description><category>Our Story</category><comments>http://blog.fatheriam.com/2008/09/24/patricias-recent-correspondence-with-our-son.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">6917b70e-9dd7-4de8-9d62-ee600e21b2a4</guid><pubDate>Wed, 24 Sep 2008 14:31:12 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>You Tell me</title><link>http://blog.fatheriam.com/2008/09/15/you-tell-me.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Stephen Avery</dc:creator><description>&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;On Wednesday, September 10, 2008, Judge Murdoch, on a motion by the defendant and agreed to by the State, declared Patricia Long mentally incompetent.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;It was surreal. The hearing started with the public defender saying they finally had a report and the determination was incompetency and saying they needed to schedule a hearing on the matter. The assistant district attorney stated that she had no objection to the determination and thus a hearing was unnecessary.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;There is so much to say, so much to ponder&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;Let us make it clear&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;Before Patricia entered the maws of the Beast Machine&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-list: Ignore"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;·&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;SPAN style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;When our daughter Jessica was born premature and spent a few weeks in ICU, Patricia left teaching and decided to stay home with the children&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-list: Ignore"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;·&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;SPAN style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;She volunteered for thousands of hours of work at church and at the children’s schools over the years.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;This is not to say that her mental illness was not present. She made three or four elaborate suicide gestures, she could never keep friends, she abused the children and myself, she compulsively lied on mist subjects, and she seemed to have problems understanding right from wrong.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;But despite these problems, she maintained a level of functionality that allowed her and those associated with her to move forward with their lives.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;In February 2002, Patricia filed for divorce and threw herself into the maw of the Beast Machine, dragging the children and I with her. The highlights are recorded in a &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;A href="http://blog.fatheriam.com/2007/07/23/a-little-background.aspx"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;previous blog&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/A&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;So, you tell me. Did the thirty or so mental health professionals involved in this case after 2001, hurt or help?&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;</description><category>Our Story</category><comments>http://blog.fatheriam.com/2008/09/15/you-tell-me.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">e6e6e272-6e25-4c81-9e4d-bcb99a8da85d</guid><pubDate>Mon, 15 Sep 2008 19:06:55 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Grandpa Joe</title><link>http://blog.fatheriam.com/2008/09/07/grandpa-joe.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Stephen Avery</dc:creator><description>&lt;H2 style="MARGIN: 12pt 0in 3pt"&gt;&lt;EM&gt;&lt;FONT face=Arial&gt;November 16, 2005&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/EM&gt;&lt;/H2&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;?xml:namespace prefix = o /&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;Deadly sick as I was, I dragged myself to court Monday for the Domestic Violence Hearings with Patricia and her ‘father’ Joe. &lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;For those that have not heard the latest in the strange life of my ex, in the end of September, she introduced a strange man in our lives as her biological father. &lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;Patricia had told the story for years about how she was the result of an affair that her mother had. I discuss this story in my draft and had always attributed it as one of Patricia’s fantasies. &lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;The fantasy took a strange and deadly form in September as Patricia’s second husband, Kyle, introduced me to Grandpa Joe at Patricia and Kyle’s divorce trial. And Joe was not an appealing figure. He showed up to court in a brown knit shirt unbuttoned to his navel and brown knit pants. Almost the first words out of his mouth were “If Patricia does not get to see the kids, I will”.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;Absolutely amazing story, thirty-eight years ago, Patricia’s mother had an affair with an Albuquerque native named Joe while both families were stationed in Spain. Joe then finished his career in the Army and returned home to &lt;?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" /&gt;&lt;st1:City w:st="on"&gt;&lt;st1:place w:st="on"&gt;Albuquerque&lt;/st1:place&gt;&lt;/st1:City&gt;. In 1986, amazing as it may be, Patricia married an &lt;st1:City w:st="on"&gt;Albuquerque&lt;/st1:City&gt; boy serving in the 82d Airborne and they moved to &lt;st1:City w:st="on"&gt;&lt;st1:place w:st="on"&gt;Albuquerque&lt;/st1:place&gt;&lt;/st1:City&gt;. Father and daughter living in the same town unknown to each other until 2003 when Patricia went out looking for her daddy and discovered he lived only a couple of miles away.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;Now reunited with his daughter he was ready to see his grandchildren, Glen, Jessica, and Montie.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;What is a father suppose to do? I grilled Joe about this amazing story and some of the facts did not add up. He told me the affair happened in the &lt;st1:place w:st="on"&gt;Carolinas&lt;/st1:place&gt; and he told me that Patricia’s mother and younger sister were aware of the reunification between Father and daughter. But not Patricia’s older sister with whom I might be in contact My understanding of Patricia’s past indicated that any affair that resulted in Patricia’s birth took place in &lt;st1:country-region w:st="on"&gt;Spain&lt;/st1:country-region&gt; while Patricia’s family was stationed there and nine months before Patricia was born outside of &lt;st1:State w:st="on"&gt;&lt;st1:place w:st="on"&gt;Madrid&lt;/st1:place&gt;&lt;/st1:State&gt;.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;One of the reasons I am alive and not dead, despite the well published efforts of my ex-wife, is a healthy respect for both Patricia’s intelligence and craziness. I made a decision to act the moment Joe brought my kids into this. &lt;st1:State w:st="on"&gt;&lt;st1:place w:st="on"&gt;New Mexico&lt;/st1:place&gt;&lt;/st1:State&gt; is a state with presumed Grandparent visitation rights and I could see this spiraling into an ugly fight if I did not address the issue at once. &lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;The logical next step was to contact Patricia’s mother Edna. Picture calling your ex mother-in-law and telling her – “Oh, by the way, I met a man today that claimed that he had an affair with you thirty-eight years ago and that Patricia was the result. Yes, yes, I have heard this story from Patricia over the last two decades and the guy tells me that you knew about him and Patricia getting together”. &lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;I called Patricia’s younger sister, told her the story, and told her that I needed to bring this up with their mother, “Mel”, I told her, “you understand why I need to approach Edna about this, I am not going to let this guy see the kids if I can help it. You are going to have act in the best interest of your family and decide how we approach your mother”.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;Mel agreed she was on the spot and wanted to talk it over with her husband before deciding on the best course of action. She called me back a few hours later and said that they decided that she should approach Edna, and that she had done so. Result – Edna very much wanted to talk to me.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;I called Edna and her reaction is best described as livid She did not appreciate her daughter labeling her as an adulterer, especially in open court. She provided a specific timeline that refuted Joe’s version of events. Specifically, that they had been in &lt;st1:country-region w:st="on"&gt;&lt;st1:place w:st="on"&gt;Spain&lt;/st1:place&gt;&lt;/st1:country-region&gt; for three uninterrupted years from January of 1965 until December of 1967. Patricia’s conception must have occurred around May of 1966. I later confirmed this timeline with Patricia’s older sister, ten at the time, and Patricia’s legal father, Ed.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;Simply put, three witnesses, two of which hated each other’s guts, Edna and Ed, all made Joe’s story about the affair a lie.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;My biggest concern, and still is, is Joe’s motivation. Patricia’s motivation is easiest to assume as an effort to cause pain, no matter what the cost. But why would Joe perjury himself in court? The question became even more critical as Joe further intruded into my life.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;The next evening, Joe telephoned the house and Jessica answered the telephone. The conversation lasted about twenty minutes and the intent was to convince me that he was indeed Patricia’s father. He told me that Edna had called him and chewed him out for breaking his promise of thirty-eight years. He then proceeded to tell me about the recent death of his son. &lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;Finally, he broached the matter of Patricia’s attempt on my life. “You know what she went to jail for I have been accused of”, he told me.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;“What, trying to kill a spouse” I replied.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;“No, no, but for years the police have thought of me as a hit man”, he said “and everyone that has ever argued with me in public has ended up missing”&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;And I am thinking to myself, “What the hell”, and wishing I had a way to record this. Wait a moment; I remember the house is set up to record telephone conversations. Two years ago, when the State took away the kids from Patricia, the court order gave me the right to record all conversations for later review. The gear was still hooked up to the phone. I rushed into the den and turned on the recorder just as Joe was repeating himself about everyone that argues with him in public disappears.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;Yes, one sided recording of telephone conversation is legal in &lt;st1:State w:st="on"&gt;&lt;st1:place w:st="on"&gt;New Mexico&lt;/st1:place&gt;&lt;/st1:State&gt;. There is not even the requirement for a ‘beep’ to notify the other party. The &lt;I style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"&gt;Albuquerque Journal&lt;/I&gt; ran an article on Sandia recording employee conversation a couple of months ago. You can hear most of the recorded conversation as part of the audio record in the subsequent hearing at &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;A href="http://www.fatheriam.com/2005%20Sanders.htm"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;fatheriam.com&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/A&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;And let’s remember folks, I am dealing with an ex wife that placed an ad on the Internet and hired two hit men to kill me. Fortunately, the first one never showed up and the second one was an undercover sheriff deputy. Let me add that the plan was to kill me in the family home with the children in the home. What do you think would have happened to my kids if they had surprised the hit man?&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;No apologies for turning the recorder on Joe, just kicking myself for not having thought of it earlier.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;On the tape is both the second and third time Joe stated that anyone that argued with him ended up missing and a long story about a former Lobo basketball player that ended up dead after arguing with Joe on Central. Of course Joe denied that he had ever killed anyone.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;When I talked to the various police departments over the next few days, they referred to Joe’s behavior as ‘fronting’. This is common criminal behavior where one lies about one’s history to appear more threatening.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;Joe was not a criminal, it appears he had been investigated several times but never convicted of a crime.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;The same could not be said for his children, Patricia’s relationship aside. The son he discussed in the September 29, 2005 telephone conversation died while in the &lt;st1:place w:st="on"&gt;&lt;ST1&lt;IMG border="0" src="http://blog.fatheriam.com/emoticons/tongue.png" /&gt;laceName w:st="on"&amp;gt;Bernalillo&lt;/ST1&lt;IMG border="0" src="http://blog.fatheriam.com/emoticons/tongue.png" /&gt;laceName&amp;gt; &lt;ST1&lt;IMG border="0" src="http://blog.fatheriam.com/emoticons/tongue.png" /&gt;laceType w:st="on"&amp;gt;County&lt;/ST1&lt;IMG border="0" src="http://blog.fatheriam.com/emoticons/tongue.png" /&gt;laceType&amp;gt; &lt;ST1&lt;IMG border="0" src="http://blog.fatheriam.com/emoticons/tongue.png" /&gt;laceName w:st="on"&amp;gt;Detention&lt;/ST1&lt;IMG border="0" src="http://blog.fatheriam.com/emoticons/tongue.png" /&gt;laceName&amp;gt; &lt;ST1&lt;IMG border="0" src="http://blog.fatheriam.com/emoticons/tongue.png" /&gt;laceType w:st="on"&amp;gt;Center&lt;/ST1&lt;IMG border="0" src="http://blog.fatheriam.com/emoticons/tongue.png" /&gt;laceType&amp;gt;&lt;/st1:place&gt; awaiting trial on charges of kidnapping and rape of a child under thirteen years old. Another daughter was serving out in Women’s Correctional Facility in Grants on charges of drug dealing, prostitution, and child abuse.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;Isn’t the Internet wonderful? All of this information available after only a few keystrokes.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;Wait a moment, Grants? The pieces started coming together. One of Joe’s real daughters was serving time out at Grants with Patricia. It seemed much more likely that Patricia and Joe met each other through this other daughter while they both served in prison. I thought this more likely than the story they told, plus it added to the incredible circumstance. Why, not only was your biological father living in the same town you moved to in 1986, but by sheer coincidence you and your half sister were serving in the same women’s prison. Right……&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;Grandpa Joe fronting as a hit man with two children spending time in prison for crimes involving children, any wonder I took the Walther out of the gun safe and chambered a round? Anyone remember my window being shot out a couple of months previous? Certain security procedures went into place.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;The questions proved simple. First, to what extent was Uncle Joe a threat to the children and myself? Second, after the possibility of violence, what were Joe and Patricia’s other objectives? Third, again, what in the world could motivate Joe to perjury himself and take these other actions on Patricia’s behalf.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;One of the first indications of wisdom is the understanding that you will never find answers to many of your critical, vital, questions.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;A second indication is the ability to chart a successful course despite a lack of information and answers.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;I am not making any pretensions of wisdom, but I am an individual that actively believes the important decision is when to be active. If I prove unsuccessful in this effort, feel free to dig up my dead body and gloat.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;I decide to act, first with law enforcement and then to file a restraining order against Joe and Patricia. The Dixie Chicks accurately describe the feebleness of a restraining order, but I restricted my actions to legal actions and believed the important step was disrupting the timing of whatever Joe and Patricia planned.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;I got a little bit of a runaround with the police initially, due to the nature of our relationship with the police. Patricia was initially arrested by the Sheriff’s department and by their homicide unit. This is probably one of the most overworked units in the &lt;st1:City w:st="on"&gt;&lt;st1:place w:st="on"&gt;Albuquerque&lt;/st1:place&gt;&lt;/st1:City&gt; area. Obviously, it made sense for them to pick up any further possible criminal acts by Patricia and obviously it had a lower priority. Half of them were in &lt;st1:City w:st="on"&gt;&lt;st1:place w:st="on"&gt;New Orleans&lt;/st1:place&gt;&lt;/st1:City&gt; helping with hurricane relief and the rest were in the middle of a horrible child molestation and possible murder case in the east mountains.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;I also called the judge presiding over Patricia’s second divorce and told them what I discovered about Patricia’s actual relationship with Joe and his testimony that he was her father.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;The sheriff’s department came out and took my initial report. The deputy who took the report had been in the room when the department started exchanging email with Patricia during her search for the hit man. He told they all stood around the computer during the rapid exchange of emails, initially refusing to believe that she was serious and then coming to realize just how serious she was in her efforts to seek my death.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;Before I could get full involvement from the law, Joe decided to contact me a second time, he called the office on October 6, 2005.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;I got the recorder on during the first few minutes of the conversation. This time Joe called to tell me that a judge had ordered him to take a DNA test and that the results proved without a doubt that he was Patricia’s father.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;This time I proved a little less polite then my first telephone conversation with Joe and grilled him pretty hard. &lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;Which judge? &lt;I style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"&gt;He could not tell me&lt;/I&gt;.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;Where did the test get done? &lt;I style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"&gt;Somewhere on second street&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/I&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;I style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/I&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;When did the test get done? &lt;I style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"&gt;On Wednesday.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/I&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;I style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/I&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;And they had the results this quick, in about thirty hours? &lt;I style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"&gt;Why of course&lt;/I&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;So, can I get a copy of the test? &lt;I style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"&gt;Sure, if you could find it.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/I&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;I style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/I&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;So, tell me your blood type? &lt;I style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"&gt;What are you going to play judge, now?&lt;/I&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;You claim to be my kid’s grandfather and almost your first words to me were that if Patricia did not see the kids, you would. I am acting in the best interest of my children. &lt;I style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"&gt;Okay, but I just said I would try and see the kids.&lt;/I&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;On and on, me asking the questions and him evading answers, telling me again and again that there was no doubt that he was Patricia’s father and my kid’s grandfather.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;He ended up telling me that he did not want to intrude on me. I said, right – he had called twice in a week, the first time at home and my daughter answered the phone, the second time at the office. He was intruding; he was imposing himself on our lives.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;I really felt that when one lie failed, he simply moved on to the next one. He was not worried at all about my confrontation. My impression was that of a con man always believing that he could land the mark.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;Not understanding his motivation worried me. What in the world did he expect to gain by perjuring himself and harassing me from a crazy, broke, imprisoned woman? &lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;And let me tell how upset Patricia’s mother was. She called on an almost daily basis for updates. Here I am, forty-four years old, single and the number one woman I conversed with is my ex-wife’s mother. &lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;One story that also came from Joe, Patricia’s mother, and her sister was Patricia insistence that she was seriously ill. It occurred to me that if Joe was on file with the Department of Corrections as Patricia’s next of kin, we would never learn any truth about her health. I suggested to my ex mother-in-law that she write a letter to the Corrections Department refuting Joe’s claim of fatherhood and noting that she was Patricia’s true next of kin. I figured it was a constructive way for her to address the pain Patricia caused her. &lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;The sheriff’s department decided to spend several hours with Joe to assure him that they were interested in his involvement with my family, the next day they served him with the temporary restraining order I sought. I am eternally grateful for their actions and wrote a thank you note to Sheriff White.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;I filed for a restraining order against both Joe and Patricia. I knew I had a solid case against Joe, but the only way that I could prove Patricia’s involvement was if I got Joe to admit that he called me at Patricia’s request. Unfortunately, on the hearing on Monday, I was pretty sick and not at my best. Additionally, KOAT ran a story on the hearing Monday morning. It is possible that the Commissioner saw the story and became aware that a typical easy restraining order granted against Patricia might mean six years more in jail for her and a headache for him.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;Obviously, Patricia and Joe came into the hearing prepared to refute my claims. What they did not anticipate was the recordings I made. I questioned Joe for several minutes and elicited lie after lie. He lied about telling me that he wanted to see the kids, he lied about his reason for calling me on the 29&lt;SUP&gt;th&lt;/SUP&gt;, and he lied about telling me that people who argued with him disappeared. The last proved a little interesting. I guess he felt a little vulnerable on this one, because he went into this long story about how he had told me about this guy who worked for Kinney Bricks that used to claim that everyone he had argued with in public disappeared.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;Joe was not happy when I pulled out the CDs and played them for the Commissioner. I obtained a two year restraining order that does not allow whim to be with 100 yards of my home or work, or 15 yards in a public place. It also requires him to surrender all firearms for the next two years and not to have one in his possession at any location. Any violation results in an immediate arrest until a hearing is held.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;As I was half expected, he did not give Patricia up and I did not get a restraining order against Patricia.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0.25in 0pt 9pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="COLOR: black"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;Motivation still bothers me. Commissioner Sheppard seemed to have the same doubts about the relationship between Joe and Patricia. He told Joe that he could only issue the restraining order because he was Patricia’s biological father, he emphasized the point, but Joe stood mute and let him issue the order.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;</description><category>Our Story</category><comments>http://blog.fatheriam.com/2008/09/07/grandpa-joe.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">cc6cf27e-5403-4586-9a06-8e37cc7f27fe</guid><pubDate>Sun, 07 Sep 2008 17:35:11 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Woundn't Mind</title><link>http://blog.fatheriam.com/2008/08/13/woundnt-mind.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Stephen Avery</dc:creator><description>&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; We were notified in Court this morning that Patricia’s hearing was rescheduled for September 10, 2008. This will be Patricia’s 356&lt;SUP&gt;th&lt;/SUP&gt; day of incarceration since her re-arrest on September 20&lt;SUP&gt;th&lt;/SUP&gt; of last year. I also believe this was our eighth appearance in Court with any hearing.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;?xml:namespace prefix = o /&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;I told a couple of people that I would mind going to Court ever six weeks or so and be told to come back for, let’s say, the next ten years.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;</description><category>Our Story</category><comments>http://blog.fatheriam.com/2008/08/13/woundnt-mind.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">638a87ef-6847-4aa8-9370-49ab0fa7fe1f</guid><pubDate>Wed, 13 Aug 2008 12:21:18 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Just the Facts, A Recent Timeline</title><link>http://blog.fatheriam.com/2008/07/17/just-the-facts-a-recent-tileline.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Stephen Avery</dc:creator><description>&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Patricia’s hearing was reset again for August 13&lt;SUP&gt;th&lt;/SUP&gt;. They are running up against the second six months and I believe any extension can only be made by the Court of Appeals or Supreme Court, unless the Judge, State, and defense agree.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Here is the time line for the last year.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;September 20, 2007 – Patricia is taken into custody as she is being discharged from Intensive Care at UNMH. Basically, &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;A href="http://www.fatheriam.com/Documents/Motion%20to%20Revoke%20Probation%20wo%20SS.pdf"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;she is charged with violating her probation by attempting to kill herself&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/A&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt; .&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;October 10, 2007 – First hearing is held. An attorney hired by “Grandpa Joe” (“&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;A href="http://www.fatheriam.com/2005%20Sanders.htm"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;Avery verses Sanders&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/A&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;” and &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;A href="http://www.fatheriam.com/Documents/Parole%20Hearing%20Statement%20Dec%202005.pdf"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;Avery Statement to Parole Board December 2005&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/A&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;)&lt;SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;takes me out to a broom closest (I am serious) and begins to tell me the defense plans for Patricia. It takes us a few minutes to realize that he thinks I am “Grandpa Joe”. When he realizes he has been talking to the victim, he disappears and is never seen again.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;The Public Defender’s office raises the issue of Patricia’s mental competency with the judge and the judge orders a competency evaluation.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;Later that day, the first of four sealed documents are filed with the court&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;January 2, 2008 – We are notified in the courtroom that the hearing has been rescheduled for the 30&lt;SUP&gt;th&lt;/SUP&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;January 30, 2008 – We are notified in the courtroom that the hearing has been rescheduled for February 27, 2008&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;February 27,2008 -- We are notified in the courtroom that the hearing has been rescheduled for April 23, 2008&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;March 18,2008 -- A sealed Documents is filed with the court&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;March 19, 2008 – A sealed document is filed with the court&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;April 23, 2008, -- We are notified in the courtroom that the hearing has been rescheduled for June 18, 2008&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;May 14, 2008 – A sealed document is filed with the court&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;July 1, 2008 – &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;A href="http://blog.fatheriam.com/2008/07/13/the-truth-the-whole-truth-and-nothing-but-the-truth.aspx"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;I am contacted by someone representing themselves as a social worker with the State of New Mexico trying to meet with Glen. I subsequently learn that the individual works for the public defenders office or Patricia.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/A&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;July 16, 2008 -- We are notified in the courtroom that the hearing has been rescheduled for August 13, 2008.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;This is seven trips to the courthouse in the last ten months with at least one more to go.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Oh, what will they ever do?&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;</description><category>Our Story</category><comments>http://blog.fatheriam.com/2008/07/17/just-the-facts-a-recent-tileline.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">0b108ba0-e1fe-475c-bf43-64df0fe8d221</guid><pubDate>Thu, 17 Jul 2008 09:27:44 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>The Truth, the Whole Truth, and Nothing But the Truth</title><link>http://blog.fatheriam.com/2008/07/13/the-truth-the-whole-truth-and-nothing-but-the-truth.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Stephen Avery</dc:creator><description>&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; tab-stops: 70.5pt"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;?xml:namespace prefix = o /&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/SPAN&gt; Tuesday afternoon, the first,&amp;nbsp;I received a telephone call on my cell from a woman who identified herself as Michelle Franoansky, a social worker with the State of &lt;?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" /&gt;&lt;st1:State w:st="on"&gt;&lt;st1:place w:st="on"&gt;New Mexico&lt;/st1:place&gt;&lt;/st1:State&gt;, looking for our son Glen.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;I told her that I was Glen’s father and Glen was at work. I further stated that I assumed this had something to do with Glen’s mother and that I would relay a message. I asked if Patricia was okay, as I did not want to unduly alarm Glen. She stated that Glen was fine and provided me her telephone number 841-5185.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;I sent Glen the following text “Glen, the state called about your mom, she is okay vur (sp) they want you to call 841-5185, michelle franoansky”.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Glen called a few minutes later and I confirmed my message and added that the lady identified herself as a social worker. Glen said he would call her and call me back.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Glen called back a little later and stated he had appointment with the social worker at 10:00 am Monday.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Yes, it appeared as if the competency evaluation on Patricia was finally moving forward.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Patricia’s pre sentence evaluation did not include an interview with Glen, but he was a minor at the time. It did include an interview with me and an interview with Patricia’s mother, Edna. I could see them not feeling the need to interview as my thoughts are pretty openly posted on the website, but I anticipated a new interview with Edna.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Glen called Edna a couple of hours later and she had not been contacted. We speculated that the process was still early and she would be called in the next couple of days.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Of course, trusting soul I am, I called Michelle’s number at about 9:00 pm that evening and discovered via her voice mail message that she worked for Patricia’s attorneys, the public defenders’ office. She was not a neutral party working for the State of &lt;st1:State w:st="on"&gt;New Mexico&lt;/st1:State&gt;, but an advocate for Patricia employed by the State of &lt;st1:State w:st="on"&gt;&lt;st1:place w:st="on"&gt;New Mexico&lt;/st1:place&gt;&lt;/st1:State&gt;.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Again, technically, I guess she is a state employee who works for the State of &lt;st1:State w:st="on"&gt;&lt;st1:place w:st="on"&gt;New Mexico&lt;/st1:place&gt;&lt;/st1:State&gt;, but the whole truth is that she is an agent of my ex-wife, a truth she did not disclose to either myself or Glen.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Just as technically, her contacting me was a violation of Patricia’s probation order, and sentencing order. Her contacting of both Glen and I is ‘technically’ a violation of the standing custody order issued by Judge Jewell.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;So, if she wishes to get technical about how loose she was with the truth…….&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Of course, she has just proven how stupid she is by trying to put this over on us. Eventually we would have discovered her true identity. I wonder if she shares a cubicle with the social worker from the public defenders office that labeled me a rapist based only on Patricia’s representation?&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Then what is so important that she must avoid the whole truth in order to see Glen, Patricia’s nineteen year old son?&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;We settled in our planning on some harebrained scheme for Patricia’s civil commitment with Glen as her guardian. State law gives Glen priority as an adult child over Patricia’s mother. Who knows? Who cares? &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Thinking they could run over or manipulate Glen, would have brought them a bit of a surprise.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;About thirty minutes before the scheduled appointment, Michelle called me again to cancel the appointment. This time she identified herself as working for the public defenders office, apparently when they ran the scheme past Patricia’s she objected strongly.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;One must wonder…. If they consider Patricia’s mental health of such a state they think the solution is putting her nineteen year old son in charge, then why listen to Patricia when she objects?&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Experience with the Beast Machine indicates a level of stupidity (listening to a crazy individual) and laziness (trying to find the easiest way to remove Patricia from the case load).&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;I wrote a &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;A href="http://blog.fatheriam.com/2008/06/17/your-guess-is-as-good-as-mine.aspx"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;blog recently&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/A&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt; where I outlined my belief that the Beast Machine could not come up with a plan that I would object to. I did not mean it as a challenge, yet they found a way to annoy me by attempting to put all of this crap, crap they created, on my nineteen year old son.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Of course he is better qualified then any of these lazy idiots, but I believe they should clean up their own mess and not attempt to victimize the innocent to solve their own problems. &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;The only positive part of this would be listening to their attempt to explain this crazy idea to the judge&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;A couple of weeks ago, a friend of mine brought up the idea of walking away from Patricia, just turning my back and ignoring whatever happens.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Well, I received an email this week from someone in jail with Patricia and she made it crystal clear Patricia’s continued hate of me and tendency to blame me for all evil in her life.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;This is one reason for keeping an eye on Patricia, especially when you consider the lunacy of “Grandpa” Joe threatening me as a third hit man.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Another reason is there are still children involved, Patricia is their mother and all of you with crazy ex’s understand how close to impossible it is to walk away when minor children are involved.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Well, another hearing scheduled for Wednesday. Can not wait to hear what they have planned.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;</description><category>Our Story</category><comments>http://blog.fatheriam.com/2008/07/13/the-truth-the-whole-truth-and-nothing-but-the-truth.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">90e5b238-0e1c-4e6f-9c9a-e582755656ac</guid><pubDate>Sun, 13 Jul 2008 13:53:01 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Same Old, Same Old</title><link>http://blog.fatheriam.com/2008/06/18/same-old-same-old.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Stephen Avery</dc:creator><description>&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Well, we had our sixth, yes sixth non hearing/hearing this morning on the Motion to Revoke Probation, Patricia’s probation filed by the State back in September of 2007. Friday will mark Patricia’s ninth month since her arrest for alleged probation violations as outlined by the &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;A href="http://www.fatheriam.com/Documents/Motion%20to%20Revoke%20Probation%20wo%20SS.pdf"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;State&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/A&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;It is a little tough on the kids, but I imagine it is tougher on Patricia. &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;</description><category>Our Story</category><comments>http://blog.fatheriam.com/2008/06/18/same-old-same-old.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">31a4235a-fbd8-4c67-99ae-2b43914873c4</guid><pubDate>Wed, 18 Jun 2008 14:52:02 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Your Guess is as Good As Mine.</title><link>http://blog.fatheriam.com/2008/06/17/your-guess-is-as-good-as-mine.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Stephen Avery</dc:creator><description>&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;There is a hearing scheduled in Patricia’s criminal case for June 18&lt;SUP&gt;th&lt;/SUP&gt;, This will be the latest in several hearings over the last nine months on the question of Patricia’s mental competency. To date, all of the hearings have ended without the presentation of any evaluations or evidence. As of the last scheduled hearing the competency evaluation is still underway.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;There are several sealed pleadings in Patricia’s criminal case. This not unusual in a case where mental illness is an issue, but the District Attorney’s office, despite all of their public support for victims, has never contacted me since Patricia’s arrest in September of 2007. Not even to inform me that several hearings were cancelled.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;?xml:namespace prefix = o /&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;My ego leads me to conclude that my successful ability to bring our case to the public attention and, possibly, to influence decisions, has led to a conscious decision on the Department of Corrections, the District Attorney’s office, and even the Honorable Judge Murdoch, to prevent my interference in this case. &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;I discussed the DA’s attitude in a previous &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;A href="http://blog.fatheriam.com/2007/11/20/victims-impact-statement-round-ii.aspx"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;blog&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/A&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt; and do not anticipate even the illusion of victim support from Brandenberg and her staff. Obviously, Patricia and her attorney consider themselves in opposition to me, and I do not blame the Department of Corrections for attempting to avoid further conflict with me.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;The truth guys, is why bother? To be less then kind, our conflict over the years arose out of your refusal to acknowledge the extent of Patricia’s mental illness. You caught up with me and we now share the next problem – how to do deal with Patricia’s illness to insure the safety of my family and society as a whole.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;I am under no legal or moral obligation to leave this responsibility to the “professionals” as they demonstrate time and time again how they simply make things worse, with the exception of Judge Murdoch. Yet, I am responsible to my family, to my children, a responsibility Judge Murdoch does not carry. In case the point is clear, although this case has consumed over half of his life, Montie is only eleven years old.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;I, along with the children, am the victim in this case, but Patricia is not the only offender. The Beast Machine prodded and poked Patricia until she lost control of her already fragile mental health. I never abused Patricia, but the Social Worker who stood in open Court and called me a rapist based on nothing other then her own agenda and Patricia’s mental illness, did abuse Patricia by feeding Patricia’s illness just to advance her own agenda.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Having asserted my right to my rights, I really do not see my intervention in Patricia’s future. Frankly, I have given up on the Beast Machine’s ability to either help Patricia or contain her. As stated previously, I also understand their unique ability to make things worse. I just do not know what they &lt;I style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"&gt;can&lt;/I&gt; do. I suspect their own thoughts along this line are the basis for the continued delays in trying to figure out what &lt;I style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"&gt;to&lt;/I&gt; do.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Since Patricia’s arrest last September I continue to puzzle with this question and the possible solutions Judge Murdoch may impose. I see five possibilities.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;One, declare Patricia mentally incompetent.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;Two, admit Patricia to the&amp;nbsp;State Hospital in &lt;?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" /&gt;&lt;st1:City w:st="on"&gt;&lt;st1:place w:st="on"&gt;Las Vegas&lt;/st1:place&gt;&lt;/st1:City&gt; for civil commitment.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Three, release her to continue probation.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Four, return her to prison to finish her initial suspended sentence.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Five, release her completely.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;I style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"&gt;One, declare Patricia mentally incompetent &lt;/I&gt;– I am just not seeing this as a real option. The standard in this case is her ability to help with her own defense. Over the hearings this year, Patricia demonstrated both her awareness and control of her defense. &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;I style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"&gt;Two, admit Patricia to the&amp;nbsp;State Hospital in &lt;st1:City w:st="on"&gt;&lt;st1:place w:st="on"&gt;Las Vegas&lt;/st1:place&gt;&lt;/st1:City&gt; for civil commitment&lt;/I&gt; – This is the solution recommended by Patricia’s probation officer. There are two problems with this. First, I believe Patricia has already been through a civil commitment evaluation in &lt;st1:City w:st="on"&gt;&lt;st1:place w:st="on"&gt;Las Vegas&lt;/st1:place&gt;&lt;/st1:City&gt; and quickly discharged. This occurred during the interval between her release from prison and her arrival in &lt;st1:place w:st="on"&gt;&lt;st1:City w:st="on"&gt;Albuquerque&lt;/st1:City&gt;&lt;/st1:place&gt; and discussed in an &lt;I style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"&gt;&lt;A href="http://www.abqtrib.com/news/2007/may/09/joline-gutierrez-krueger-how-balance-confidentiali/"&gt;Albuquerque Tribune&lt;SPAN style="FONT-STYLE: normal"&gt; article&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/A&gt;&lt;/I&gt; at the time. I do not see any changes in circumstances that would make Vegas revaluate their decision made during her last visit.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;Also, and this goes along with option one; I do not perceive Patricia’s form of mental illness as among those normally treated in mental hospitals. I do not believe she is schizophrenic but a &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;A href="http://personalitydisorders.suite101.com/article.cfm/can_psychopaths_be_rehabilitated"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;psychopath&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/A&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;. The prognosis for treatment of psychopaths is negative.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;So, Vegas discharged her once and they are not likely to keep her a second time. Although, I do consider it likely they will send her to Vegas for a second evaluation. This is simply an expedient way to deal with the impossibility of her case.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;I style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"&gt;Three, release her to continue probation- &lt;/I&gt;I see this as a likely outcome, just reset and give her another chance. Not that she deserves one, but what other realistic options does the State have? &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;I do not &lt;SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/SPAN&gt;see my self in a position to object to this course of action, her release back to supervised probation and a new half-way house. I, along with others, forsee this ending in a repetition of her last release.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;I style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"&gt;Four, return her to prison to finish her initial suspended sentence—&lt;/I&gt; Despite the wonderful program on Dateline a couple of weeks ago about women who hire hit men and their prison sentences, I was not uncomfortable with Patricia’s initial sentence. The Judge anticipated this very future -- send her to jail for a couple of years and hopefully she would learn her lesson, if not send her back to jail for the rest of the eight years.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;I only see this happening if the Judge is convinced that Patricia can not be rehabilitated, is not treatable for mental illness, and an immediate danger.&lt;SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;If nothing is going to change, this just postpones the inevitable.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;I style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Five, release her completely—&lt;/I&gt;I assume this is within the judge’s discretion and there is some basis for it in the statutes dealing with mental incompetency. &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;There is part of me that wonders if this would be safer then releasing her on active probation. Active probation set her up in conflict with her probation officer, case worker, and mental health providers. This conflict quickly bled over to her filing new DV charges against me.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;</description><category>Personal</category><comments>http://blog.fatheriam.com/2008/06/17/your-guess-is-as-good-as-mine.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">33ffd2d4-1fce-4e34-9066-bb4b441b8c1a</guid><pubDate>Tue, 17 Jun 2008 15:49:46 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>How Do You Know When to Walk Away?</title><link>http://blog.fatheriam.com/2008/04/30/how-do-you-know-when-to-walk-away.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Stephen Avery</dc:creator><description>&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;?xml:namespace prefix = o /&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;The world would be a different world if people knew how to answer this question. When do you leave an abusive partner? When does a child turn their back on an abusive parent? When is enough enough?&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;Outsiders always perceive the issue in simple terms. I remember the supervisor at the State Protective Services escorting me out of the building after a hearing where Patricia asked for the children back and asking “How did you stay married to her for fifteen years”.&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"&gt;&lt;FONT size=3&gt;&lt;FONT face="Times New Roman"&gt;&lt;SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/SPAN&gt;My answer was witty and smart “When you are holding the tiger by the tail, you do not let go”. The reality was that I was pretty stupid. &lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/F